New York Dating: Market Price Search & Analysis (Part 3)
This appeared on Craigslist last month:
“…What am I doing wrong?
“Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.
“Are there any guys who make $500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around $200-250K. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. $250,000 won’t get me to Central Park West. I know a woman in my Yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
“Here are my questions specifically:
“- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms.
“- What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my feelings.
“- Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?
“- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the Upper East Side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the East Village. What’s the story there?
“- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the Hedge Fund guys hang out?
“- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for marriage only .
“Please hold your insults - I’m putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
“It’s not ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests.
“Posting ID: 432279810″
And the answer was:
“Dear Pers-431649184:
“I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here’s how I see it.
“Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!
“So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
“So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s
as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
“Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful” as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.
“By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.
“With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way. Classic “pump and dump.”
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.”
There are many ways to a good life, including hard work and Lady Luck. But for some, the short cut to a fancy lifestyle is through dating a millionaire. Many good-looking men and women all over the world use various techniques to snare the rich mate.
The increasing popularity of Internet sites like Millionaire Club which bring together millionaires and those wanting to date or marry them shows that the trend of men and women chasing moneyed partners is on the rise. The good news for them is that the number of millionaires is rising. In fact the number of female millionaires is also on the rise – good news for men who would like to marry up.
The statistics also reveal that few of these millionaires are single. Thomas Stanley’s The Millionaire Mind reveals that only 8 percent of these millionaires are single and eligible. This means that the odds that you are dating a millionaire are 215:1
The strategy of snaring a millionaire can be broken down in four steps:
- Locating a millionaire
- Attracting the millionaire
- Dating the millionaire
- Getting them to the altar
1. Locating a millionaire
Some places are better for meeting millionaires. These include places they frequent, such as expensive lobby bars, polo matches, yacht clubs, art auctions, charity functions, the golf course and exotic places like the Carribean. You are not going to find Mr. Right unless you are at the right location. Also avoid places like laundromats, Wal-Marts and malls, adult magazine shops, professional wrestling matches and auto parts stores. Some thrifty millionaires may take their own clothes to the laundromat or shop at Wal-Mart. After all, millions aren’t made by splurging but millionaires who are higher up are unlikely to.
2. Attraction
After spotting the quarry, it is time to go for the kill. Millionaires are flighty creatures and you must work hard to gain their attention. Firstly learn to recognize wealth. It is never flashy, but has a subtle elegance. If you haven’t spotted the object of your affection, join a dating service where affluent men and women meet and date in a discrete manner.
Before you approach your date, you must look attractive and dress immaculately. Classy chic is the best. Designer labels are unnecessary, but avoid skintight lycra garments, mini skirts and boob tubes. Wear subtle, sophisticated colours and avoid shiny and loud colours. Stick to silk, wool and 100 percent cotton. You may consult an image consultant to rehaul your wardrobe. Millionaires notice elegant and classy looking ladies.
Get a manicure and pedicure done. You must be perfectly groomed for action. Invest in a great hairstyle-one which can be maintained easily and looks good for a long time.
To break the ice, you can look for apt situations, like purposely seizing his deck chair when he goes for a drink and later apologizing and starting a conversation, or stealing tennis balls and later get chatting about tennis. The opportunities are all out there; you have to grab the best that suits you.
3. Dating a millionaire
After you have a millionaire smitten, your next task is to keep him interested. This depends on the quality of your dating encounters. On the first date, try and discuss issues that are of common interest and awaken mutual enthusiasm. For this you can prepare yourself before the date by taking time to learn some topics that you can discuss with a millionaire, like sports, cars, current affairs, and stocks. Keep abreast of how the economy is doing and some basic economic trends. Don’t approach subjects which make you appear like a gold digger.
4. Marrying a millionaire
Some millionaires can be extremely frightened of marriage, considering the reality of gold-diggers that they encounter daily. It will take a long, careful and deep search by them before they decide to walk up the aisle with someone they like. Considering the high rates of divorce and acrimonious divorce settlements, most millionaires insist on prenuptial agreements. Some women, mostly gold diggers will pretend to be personally insulted if their partner presses for a pre-nup. But if you are interested in a fully committed marriage without financial hang-ups it is best to have a pre-nup signed between the two.
The craze for hunting for rich dates or sugar daddies has led to a spate of television shows. ‘The Dating Game’ was the pioneer in the 1970s, followed by ‘Blind Date’ and ‘He Said, She Said’. Two recent gold-digging based programmes are ‘Who Wants to Marry a Multimillionaire?’ and “Joe Millionaire”.
This poses the question to all the audience of such shows, “Would you ever marry a multi-millionaire you never met before the wedding.” Some are willing to take the chance of marrying a millionaire only for his money, without checking if personalities match. This is a gamble but then marriages usually are!
And you? Whatever city you live in what are your thoughts ?
Joelle’s Picks
Sources : Futurescope.com - How to date a millionaire Rakhi Abraham
Related Posts:
Can I take you out? New York Single Relashionships ( Part 2)
Baby Please Don’t New York Single Relashionships ( Part 1 )
The Books:
Dating Up: Dump the Schlump and Find a Quality Man
Smart Man Hunting: A Fast-Track Dating Guide for Finding Mr. Right
Marie Claire- Millionaire Makeover
Hub Pages: Why I d’ never date a millionaire?
The Private Club : Bruno Jamais Restaurant Club - 24 East 81st Street, NY, New York
The Invitation:NYC Millionaire’s Matchmaking Event
The serious Matchmaking: Janis Spindel :http://www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com/
The Yoga School: Jivamukti Yoga School 841 Broadway , 2nd floor New York, NY 10003 Tel: (212) 353-0214 (800) 295-6814
Fax: (212) 995-1313: http://www.jivamuktiyoga.com/fms/index.html
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